Conflict is not a hurdle to be overcome, but a pattern to be understood; it is through the examination of these patterns that we unlock the truly creative potential of our challenges. We see conflict in various facets of our lives, from personal relationships to professional environments. In these spaces, conflict often arises from differences in values, goals, or communication styles. Yet it is precisely these differences that offer fertile ground for growth and innovation.
Many conflicts we encounter often intensify because we tend to concentrate on defending our own stance instead of trying to understand the perspective of the other person. Hence, our defensive approach can create a cycle of misunderstanding and frustration, where both parties feel unheard and undervalued. Therefore, we must adopt a mindset that prioritizes understanding over winning. Remember, resolving conflict is not about proving who is right or wrong but about finding a way forward that respects the needs and perspectives of everyone involved. By cultivating a mindset that seeks to understand and learn from conflict, we can transform it into a powerful catalyst for personal and collective growth.
Jennifer Jones-Patulli is a conflict management and leadership development consultant with a passion for transforming conflict into a productive force. In 2019, Jennifer founded Productive Conflict LLC, where she combines complexity thinking, conflict resolution, and power dynamics to help clients foster better collaboration, increased productivity, and stronger organizational relationships. Her innovative approach emphasizes the need for adaptive, interdisciplinary strategies to tackle complex challenges and achieve lasting results.
In this episode with Jennifer Jones-Patulli, we will discover how to turn conflicts into chances for growth and creativity. Jennifer explains how viewing conflict positively can reveal key patterns and improve relationships. She highlights the role of leaders in using conflict to strengthen their teams and encourage open communication. Tune in to learn practical tips for handling conflicts constructively and making them work for you.
"If you're brave enough to face patterns and conflict and the hardest moments, you are probably among the top strong people in this world."– Jennifer Jones - Patulli
Topics Covered:
(00:00:32) Introducing our special guest, Jennifer Jones - Patulli
(00:01:58) The conflict on our relationship with money
(00:02:55) Jennifer’s journey into conflict resolution
(00:05:39) What is conflict coaching?
(00:07:03) How conflicts reveal patterns that help us grow?
(00:08:52) Reacting vs. Responding
(00:10:36) Problem vs. Pattern
(00:12:34) The Many Faces of Power in Organizations
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(00:16:37) Analyzing your last four conflicts
(00:18:56) Timing and approach in conflict resolution
(00:20:05) Finding the right support for deeper personal issues
(00:22:40) Getting out of default mode
(00:23:42) Final TimeOut with Jennifer Jones - Patulli: How to begin using productive conflict
(00:25:14) Where to connect to Jennifer Jones - Patulli
Key Takeaways:
"Many times in the workplace, our conflicts are signaling something that needs to be changed, whether it's a process, team dynamic, power dynamic or even just use of power."– Jennifer Jones - Patulli
"Our conflicts are full of patterns that tell us a story."– Jennifer Jones - Patulli
"One thing I've often noticed in the workplace is that there's a hierarchy where those in power make the decisions, and workers often feel they have no voice or influence."– Dr. Derrick Burgess
"Sometimes we face conflicts because they are unavoidable, and other times we avoid them due to lack of time. However, there is a right moment for addressing conflicts that is most productive."– Jennifer Jones - Patulli
"Conflicts often reveal patterns from your past."– Jennifer Jones - Patulli
"People know more than they realize."– Jennifer Jones - Patulli
"A confidential private conversation is the safest way to start learning."– Jennifer Jones - Patulli
Connect with Jennifer Jones - Patulli:
Website: https://productiveconflict.us/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/productive_conflict/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennifer-jones-patulli-ma-hsdp-a3a2027a/
Connect with Dr. Derrick Burgess:
Website: https://www.drderrickthesportsdr.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drderrickthesportsdr/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TimeOut.SportsDr
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/derrick-burgess-72047b246/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHGDu1zT4K_X6PnYELu8weg
Email: thesportsdoctr@gmail.com
